How I moved to NYC

Dear Pussycats,

Huge news: Last month I hit my 1 year anniversary in New York! While my life isn't cheesecake, Frank Sinatra and a Manhattan on the rocks, I did it, I made it and I wanna tell you how.

Moving to New York is absolutely terrifying. It has been the hardest thing I've done, but trust me, if I can do it, ANYONE can do it. There are several things that lead up to my actual moving, I knew I had an opportunity and if I didn't take it I'd regret it for the rest of my life!

1) Passion - It started really with a dream, I know, I know I sound like a Lifetime-lady-tampon movie, but you have to want to move to New York more than ANYTHING in the world. As you know I visited October 2013 for the Teen Vogue Fashion university program and it was an amazing experience! After spending time in the city I knew I had to get back there as soon as possible! It was my dream and I was clawing at the bit to make happen. I slept and dreamt New York, and I truly think the only way to actually make it here is to be hungrier than I am when I'm walking past the Roll & Go on Canal st (mmmm pizzaaaaa).

2) Motive - mine was an internship, yours could be a job, you need some sort of catalyst. Internships can be easy to get, however you get stuck in this weird middle ground because it is a New York law that you have to either be paid, or get school credit, so that is why I decided to finish my schooling online while I moved to New York to try to make it happen. Also I would suggest you getting a job at a company you could transfer with, because internships don't pay and they don't guarantee a job so you need money somehow and having job security is important, jobs aren't that easy to get, despite what I used to think.

3) Financial stability or a really supportive family - I'll be honest with you, the "savings" I had consisted of all my couch cushion change and my tax return, don't do it this way, SAVE MONEY BBs. I was lucky to get some help from my parents, but truthfully I was selfish in thinking that I could rely on them, if you're an adult and you want to make this grown-up decision to move, don't do it the way I did. Save your $$, because New York is one of the most expensive cities in the world and if you want to make it happen and live the Blair Waldorf dream, you gotta have the funds to pay for all those bagels with lox mmkay.

4) Housing - if you are interning you can sign up to live in the NYU dorms! While they are a bit pricey, it was Manhattan real estate for the summer with a bunch of other interns and even though there was three of us in a room, it was an experience to say the least. Other than that, I wouldn't really try to find a place before you move, I've heard through many people that that doesn't pan out as well as you'd hope. Wait till you get here to check out places, because trust me girl, no friend is close enough to check out Craigslist places for you.  So I dormed from late May to early July, then when it came to finding something permanent, I kept my ears perked and told EVERYONE that I was looking to find a place,  and thankfully I lucked out and got the best roommate ever through one of my coworkers! Trust me, you talk to enough people and you'll find something!

5) Friends, family, any members of your tribe - I seriously recommend connecting with ANYONE you know. I reconnected with an old friend of mine and we hit it off like never before. Having people just to go to Bed Bath and Beyond with you is extremely important in lifting your spirits on a sad day! Meeting you for drinks after a stressful day at work or even just helping you move, tribe members are essential, especially when your family and OG homegirls are so far away!

I wanted to make a little list of some things I've learned in this year.

1) New Yorkers aren't rude, they are direct - Don't be afraid to speak your mind and stand up for yourself! You won't get anywhere if you aren't afraid to say what you mean and mean what you say! Sometimes I am shocked at the things I hear New Yorkers say, but hey! At least they aren't passive aggressive like every other city in America.

2) Pull over to the side of the street when accessing google maps - There is no bigger indicator that A) you have no clue where you are going and B) you are a newbie. So pull over because you will get shoulder-checked by an angry New Yorker on their smoke break plowing down Broadway.

3) Visit $1 Pizza $2 Beer in Greenwich Village for the Best deal in NYC - trust me, It's actually called "$1 Pizza $2 Beer" and it sells exactly what it's claiming. Whether you're pre-gaming for a night out or just need a cheap buzz, go there and relish in the incredibleness.

4) Have Cash Always - whether its for a $1 slice, $1 hotdog or anything from a bodega, half the time they don't take credit cards and 100% of the time it's a huge pain in my ass.

5) Even if you don't think you're brave and strong, you are! I have to tell myself this every day, but taking the leap and jumping into the unknown is terrifying and you deserve some credit! Not just everyone can do what we did and we deserve a pat on the back and a really good hug.

I hope this advice was helpful for any of you BB's thinking about making this move
keep it sassy,

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